GROUP bring HAPPINESS ?


















*Up date*



Its Been a long time since i last up date. I always been postponing to blog. I guess it wasn't the time yet to blog. But i finally got the inspiration to blog again. Okay, This post would be about some thing i feel this week. Its some thing i feel deep down inside . So if i ever offend you, i am sorry. But just discontinue reading. I wouldn't mind.


Okay here it goes. Some times i feel that in life , most of the time you depend on friends. I would also agree. But is it to the extend that you are so proud that you are being accepted into a group? To be in a group, it used to be some thing i look forward to. But ever since i being betrayed again and again by friends, I began to think about what so great about being accepted into a group if they do not even respect you as an individual? What worst when they even talk behind your backs when you are not around about the things you did which wasn't pretty accepted by them. And you can still happy say that you are being accepted into a group. I find it pitiful to some who have to depend on friends that accept them into a group to be friends. And more pitifully when you need to depend on being accepted into a group for your happiness.


What i am trying to say here is that, why not be your self. Be how you would like others to treat you. Have pride in your self. Why must you make other to accept you into a group to gain happiness? You are one individual that should be respected in society no matter what you are.


Ever since i "physically " left the group and began being solo, i realise that i missed a lot of happiness being around the rest of my classmate i hardly even know. May be i guess its a blessing of disguise that i had make the decision to leave the group for good. I know i could not accept my own decision at all in the beginning. But some thing pushed me to make the decision. And i always believe i have the blessing no matter what i do. Be it with life, with friends, with parents, i always have the blessing and learn from what that i bound to overcome. Even thought its painful in the beginning, but i guess its still a good gain.


Those classmate of mine, they would tell you straight in the face when they are not happy with you. They never keep it with them. They are always encouraging in every thing you do. They do not even care the reason you join them suddenly for lunch, for an outing or any thing. They just go with the flow. And i also realise that they do things mostly by themselves. They do not do it in a group. They are more independent that i think they are. May be because of that i began to be independent my self. I do not care if they go for class or not, i make my own decision for the things i do. I do not go school just because of friends now a days.


But some thing else they taught me was that when they play, they play to the max. That was when we went Sungai Wang for a karaoke session. It was suppose to be a a farewell for RYAN. But in the end it was more like a farewell for all of us. We really sang our hearts out not bothering about any thing at all. May be its because of their way of attitude, it made me comfortable being around them. After all , i am still a Chinese educated, brought up in the Chinese way and been speaking Chinese since i was young not forgetting English as well. But with them i began to feel my "roots " back. Being a true Chinese, speaking mostly Chinese and learning back those Chinese words i used to write in primary. It just made me realise that after all i am still a Chinese , and all this while i had been trying TOO HARD TO BE AN ENGLISH EDUCATED.


I AM NOT SAYING BEING AN ENGLISH EDUCATED IS NOT GOOD. But when you are a born Chinese, and had been learning Chinese all your life, be one. Don't let others influence you. What's the point when you are good in English and weak in your own Chinese dialect? The whites are proud of their own language and been speaking English all their life, why can't we learn that from them instead of to learn how to be like them?


We as an individual, we should be proud of who we are and not follow other's culture. You can appreciate their culture, but please do not discriminate yours.


To those out there, know your roots, treasure it, and be proud of it. Be like the whites that are proud of their own language. If they can do you, so do you. Work now...................




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Okay here's some thing else . The show i am about to reveal really touches me deep down inside. It too gave me motivation to live. Please go and have a view on it. You can get it from you tube.






-ONE LITER OF TEARS-







* A Quote To Share- When I Fall, I See The Sky.


Happy Viewing.










-The unexplainable-

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